Don’t be afraid to use your voice, it’s one of your most potent weapons!
An assailant is looking for a “victim” an easy target, someone to be intimidated.
Just ensure that you are not that person.
If you are cornered or threatened use your voice forcefully and don’t be afraid to scream and shout (in fact in my presentations I wholeheartedly endorse the use of “profanity” or swear words) as this will again serve to highlight your situation and again just to illustrate my point, I’d like you to cast your mind back to a time when you where walking down the street and lo and behold there was a couple of people having a right old barney!
Now you’re not going to tell me that you just walked by and ignored it completely, are you?
Of course not, you might not have stopped but I bet you had a good old look to see what was going on
You didn’t actually do anything but you did have a look, its only human nature to be nosey!
Use that natural nosiness to your own advantage and draw attention to yourself as soon as possible.
If you do get into the unfortunate situation of being accosted accosted and really do feel that your personal safety is being threatened, this is not a time to be shy and retiring.
Everything hinges on you acting instantly and without hesitation, this is your split second advantage so use it.
And I don’t mean just shout as if you were angry and having an argument with someone you know, I’m talking about a full on “bellow” here, straight from the lungs, and ideally if you’re able to – scream and shout directly into their faces as this will also have an incredibly disorientating effect on them and also serve to confuse them momentarily giving you that split second to get to a place of safety!
The senses can’t withstand a full on assault and chances are that they will back off momentarily.
If you’re wrong it doesn’t matter, you can always apologise later (that’s if they haven’t run off in complete fear and confusion first) but if the situation is real it could make all the difference and protect you from real harm.
REMEMBER! I am only advocating buying yourself a split second or at most two to three seconds, but that could be all the time it takes for you to get to a place of safety.
Best wishes,
Garth Delikan
The Lifestyle Guy – Personal Empowerment Coach
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